Is There A ‘Right Time’ To Big Chop!? – snip-snip!
So… Is there a ‘right time’ to do the big chop?
I receive quite a bit of emails asking when the best time to BC is. I think it depends on a lot of different factors and it’s different for everyone. But what do you think? Is there a ‘right time’ or even a ‘wrong time’?
Below is a portion of an email that i received from a soon to be natural who is transitioning and has some reservations about her BC. Take a look and if you have some encouraging words or some advice for her, make sure to leave a comment!! Especially if you can relate!
‘Factors affecting my decision: boyfriend, school/career, and myself. Boyfriend: we’ve been together for 6 years. So this is a serious relationship; marriage is somewheres in the plans, and I value his opinions. He supports my natural hair journey, but he does not like short short hair. He’s not going to stop being my boyfriend or anything if I big chop. I just dont want to be unattractive to him (this is just how I feel). School/Career: I’m in grad school, and I will be starting dental school next fall. Id been wearing sew ins for the first semester, and now im just wearing my hair in a pony or curly fro. Funds are low, and my time is limited; dont have time to deal with two textures. Anyway, I noticed that many of the faculty dont really recognize me without my longer hair. Now, I only wear 12in hair, so its not like theres a drastic change. I feel like if I big chopped, I would be treated differently.I’ve noticed alot of getting ahead is who you know. And I dont want to be left behind. I dunno? (just how I feel). Finally myself: I want to big chop bc, I think the scraggly relaxed ends are hindering my growth. ( only have about 1 1/2 in new growth) And I am so anxious to see my natural texture. On the other hand, I wont be comfortable with a twa. Not bc I dont think twa’s are cute or look unprofessional, but bc I dont think “I” would look ok with one. My head is huge, no exaggeration, and I dont have cutesie features. Not being self conscience or anything. Everything just doesnt look good on everybody. We’ve all seen ppl with nice hair styles, but the style doesnt fit their face. I dont want to be that person.’
If you are transitioning, do you have some of the same thoughts and/or feelings? If you already BC’d do you have any tips to overcome the uncertainty? Tell me what you think!?